Mental Health Awareness Week 2023: 5 stories in 5 days, Felix Mitchell

With the theme being anxiety for this year's Mental Health Awareness Week, Felix Mitchell, co-CEO, shares his experience


Written by Felix Mitchell, co-CEO and co-Founder


OK – mental health awareness week! Time to share those parts of me that I usually bury deep down... (healthy I know!)

I like to think that my journey with mental health is incredibly complex and unique but reading the articles from my colleagues (links here), it’s clear that it’s not. I usually don’t share because on the whole I’m unbelievably lucky and I know how many more challenges many of those around me face.

I’ve written about 3 key phases of my life. I hope that there are some useful lessons of what to do (and more likely, what not to do).


Coping mechanisms:

  • None

Overall mental health score: C

Key lessons: everyone has mental health – ignore it at your peril!

My struggles with mental health started when I was at school. It was VERY high pressure. You’d get held back after class if you got an A rather than an A* in a practice paper. As an average academic performer for the school I did struggle to keep pace at times, especially when impacted by dyslexia, and I regularly felt like a bit of a moron.

I also rowed to a relatively high level but was the worst member of our 8-person team. I was constantly fighting for my seat.

I’d suffer near-crippling rushes of panic on the way to lessons or to the gym. I just pushed them down and got on with it. No one I knew spoke about mental health in terms other than complete breakdown (I knew several people across school and university who had them) so I never thought to speak to anyone about it. It’s a real shame as I believe that a couple of well timed interventions could have really helped me.

Whilst I was able to muddle through, it all came crashing down in my early 20s.

21-25 self-medication and breakdown

Coping mechanisms:

  • Alcohol
  • Denial

Overall mental health score: F

Key lessons: lack of support leads to crisis

When I started working and founded Instant Impact, I still didn’t have any healthy ways of dealing with my worsening mental health.

Although I had my co-founder Rob to talk to about the struggles and uncertainty of building a business, I was also dealing with a range of personal issues and was burning the candle at both ends. During this period, I also broadly stopped working out and ate terribly.

I started to spiral, drank more, partied harder, made bad decisions, felt guilty, drank more, etc. By my mid-20s I was in a pretty dark place and sometimes struggled to get out of bed.

Eventually, I started seeing a psychiatrist who helped me out of the worst of it and gave me some useful coping mechanisms but he left the UK for Australia after 4 sessions and I didn’t feel up to finding a replacement. (Let’s not talk about abandonment issues...)

He had done enough to give me a grounding in how to look after my mental health and woke me up to the fact that something needed to change.

26 - 32

Coping mechanisms:

  • Family (especially wife)
  • Support network (friends and colleagues)
  • Headspace (mindfulness)
  • Regular restful holiday

Overall mental health score: B

Key lessons: surround yourself with the right people

Since my lowest point I’ve gradually become better and better at improving my mental health.

The biggest shift for me was being purposeful with who I had around me.

In my wife I gained someone in whom I felt safe confiding in. She quickly became my biggest supporter and rock when things get challenging.

I also curated my social scene, allowing me to establish a much healthier approach to drinking and a balanced work / fun / life balance. I purposefully stopped seeing friends who encouraged bad habits or thrived off creating drama.

Despite this, I still continue to have wobbles. If I go too long (over 4 months) between holidays I start to struggle. When I’m mentally tired I find it hard to deal with even the smallest issue and it can quickly escalate to a minor breakdown where I feel completely overwhelmed and struggle to do even a small task.

Luckily, I now have the right people around me, always there to pick me up when I need it whether that’s a friend, a family member, or a colleague. All I need to do is talk to them (sometimes that’s easier said than done!).

32 – present

Coping mechanisms:

  • As above
  • Regular exercise
  • Drinking less

Overall mental health score: C

Key lessons: sleep deprivation is torture!

The arrival of my two wonderful sons has brought new challenges.

The lack of sleep has knocked back my mental health. Especially with my second son who is an awful sleeper (we’re 5 months in and he’s still waking up 6 times a night on average). That’s hard, really hard. I’m trying to come to terms with the fact that, until we can get him sleeping properly, I’m not going to be the colleague or friend that I’m used to being. I still struggle with that. The lack of sleep also means that I feel everything else much more keenly – it's been difficult keeping my mind in a good place and I catch myself being too easy to anger.

I’ve had to be stricter with myself than ever. That means regular communication with my wife, forcing myself to exercise regularly, going to sleep early (8.30pm believe it or not), and cutting down on the booze.

I know that mental health will always be a bit part of my life. I’m a man of extremes and always have been. I just have to remember to keep it front and centre and treat it with the respect it deserves.